Word has it that Kate Upton is fat. She’s also vulgar, has floppy boobs, huge thighs, and a bunch of “undesirable” physical traits.This news came from Skinny Gurl, the creator and blogger for the site Skinny Gossip.
Upton is a model, the new face of Guess, and a newly turned 20-year-old. Got it? Good.
In the last few days I feel as if every media outlet is talking about what this blogger wrote about Upton. Not to make a judgment on another writer based on anything but my own eyes, I decided to actually read the post that sparked a war cry from both men and women. Yes, the post was snarky. At some points it was cruel. There were also a few times I laughed out loud. Please readers, don’t hate me. Mean or not, Skinny Gurl has a way with words.
Skinny Gurl admitted within her post that she once though Upton to be attractive. It was merely her recent appearance she found alarming. Check out the photos that warranted the f-word.
When I first saw these photos (not all were pictures in the blogger’s site) I first didn’t realize who Upton was. Sure, the name sounded familiar. But I honestly couldn’t match the name with the face on the screen.
"Is she a plus size model?" I asked my boyfriend, while scrolling through the Skinny Gossip post.
"This is Kate Upton," he said plucking his Sports Illustrated issue from the side of the bed (with the same photo above).
We looked at some of the sites photos of Upton together. The girl on the blogger’s post looked like the same girl in SI but not completely the same.
"I guess she gained some weight," I said. Then I thought about all the other things people have been writing about Upton and Skinny Gurl.
On one hand I understand the outrage. Like I said, the post was mean. But if anyone who covered the story actually read more than one post on the site they would know that that is sort of part of the site’s theme. And there are dozens of other sites just like it. Sites solely dedicated to picking apart someone’s appearance. Then again, isn’t that what magazines do? How many magazines do you have, right now in your position that either a) pick apart someone’s outfit b) pick apart someone’s hair c) praise someone for being exceptionally stylish d) diss them for being exceptionally tacky? Most magazines do these things in one way or another. Most won’t be as blunt about it as Skinny Gurl, but make no mistake, the sentiment is the same.
People, whether they are apart of the media, in the grocery store or sitting in the cubical or desk next to you, check one another out. Blame the eyes. They do have a pesky tendency to see things. And then our mouths sometimes tend to say things based on what our eyes see. Either that or we take to the net or paper, the phone or whatever. Maybe we keep it in. But we access the situation. It’s kind of a human thing.
Here’s the thing I don’t get. Someone please explain it to me. Seriously. Are people mad with Skinny Gurl because she publicly admitted to thinking Upton was fat or was it just the way she admitted it? Is it that she runs a site that many perceive as Pro-ED? Please, someone explain the cause for anger to me. Because if you may have noticed already, I did mistake Upton for a plus-size model. Don’t get me wrong, she’s perfectly lovely. Her boobs are enviable. But this doesn’t change the fact this is what I thought.
Maybe I’m confused because our society is filled with mixed messages that I’m just not quick enough to decipher. While people speak out against Skinny Gurl’s post, citing her and bloggers like her as the reason so many young women have a poor body image, there is also a fair share of press being given to the latest weight loss pill. We want to be fat. We don’t want to be fat. Which one is it? I don’t get it. And I’m NOT calling Kate Upton fat or even condoning the post on Skinny Gossip. I am, however, questioning why we hate someone who has taken a stand on where they stand in this confusing war of body image and health practices. Like it or not, you know where she stands.
I don’t know where America stands at all. I feel our obsession with weight, looks, health and everything in between teeters back and forth more than a yo-yo dieter’s scale. It’s no good. It has to end. Because the bottom line is this-not enough people are moving. Not enough people are feeding themselves the right things. These are facts, not opinions. Check out the sources. See source 1. See source 2.
Too much emphasis has been placed on models, celebrities and magazines. We can force publications to stop airbrushing all we want, but it’s not necessarily going to make us as individuals or a nation healthier. And for me, that’s what it boils down to-health. Look at Kate Upton and deeming her healthy or unhealthy; fat or fit has no real affect on my health. It doesn’t have any affect to yours. And that’s what I’m getting at-if we spent more time worrying about ourselves, our health, our dedication to making sure we lived the best lives possible, we wouldn’t really have time to worry about some famous stranger and what she is or isn’t doing in the gym. Fad diets and pills may not be of much interest any longer.
I use to be quiet fixated on the weight of celebs myself. I use to be fixated on weight, period. I don’t think I would have been fixated on any of these things if I had never spent a brief but memorable time in my life overweight. It sucked. I know, I know. Some people embrace their size and really love it. I was not one of them. I hated how I felt (tired, heavy), was treated (coldly or worse, ignored), and looked. I lost the weight and went to extremes to not get “fat” again. I don’t blame anyone for this but myself. I chose to make poor decisions that resulted in my weight gain and then unhealthy fixation on the scale. The moment I took responsibility for that; the moment I said ‘I’m just going to focus on myself and not anyone else and find what works best for me’ I found a sense of personal peace. It was odd how it happened. It was like I woke up one day and I just didn’t care who was fat or thin in the public eye. All I cared about was whatever goal I had set for myself that day. And suddenly I could flip through a magazine and actually enjoy its contents because I didn’t feel pissed off that the girls on the pages ‘didn’t represent me.” Of course, it was/is always nice when they do, but the point is I didn’t take things so personally. I don’t think we should take so much so personally.
And if we really hate when people criticize one another than we have to stop being hypocrites and get mad at ALL venues dedicated to pulling people and things apart. Like I already said, it’s everywhere. Pick a target. I make no apologies for loving fashion, magazines, super tall svelte women in designer jackets, or french fries smothered in ketchup AND mayo-I know, gross. Why should I apologize? That’s who I am. I accept that others may loath these things and that’s fine too. The world is filled with other things to love. Am I naive for thinking we all can have our cake and eat it too?
That’s what this post is really about, and I’m sorry it took me so long to get to this point. Thanks for sticking it out with me. My point is this: We’re spending too much time going against one another. The fat acceptance movement pushes against those who kneel before the goddesses of thin. The skinnies rail against those who embrace their fuller figures. Health “experts” fight against those who say they can be fit and fat and visa versa. It’s a pointless cycle. I’m getting off the ride. I’m done-seriously. Because we’re all allowed to have an opinion. We can have the right to live the life we want. If we accept this than we can all go back to our lunch in peace. Is this such a hard concept? We’re adults. I’m sure we can swing it. Fighting causes stress. It’s bad for the skin. You know how I feel about having good skin.
Now, let’s talk about this. What do you think of all this? Do you think we need to call it truce? Is our society being hypocritical? What do you think of sites like Skinny Gossip? What about the girl who wrote to Seventeen? Just talk to me in the comments. Let’s reason together.